Category Archives: Education

Vacation?

We’ve been away twice in the last 15 months, a weekend with my Dad over the summer and Thanksgiving weekend with my husband’s family.

We thought of taking a weekend getaway for ourselves, and even found a dog-sitter. We wanted to take the train to a nearby city and stay two nights. Now I find that a two-star hotel costs between $300-400 per night out at the airport, and a four-star costs between $500-700 per night, even on discount sites.

This is crazy! Our home is nicer and has much better views than anything we’ll pay a fortune to lay our heads down in for two nights. As far as I’m concerned it’s a big waste of money and I’d rather plan it better and do more research, find a hotel for one night and every activity we’d like to accomplish during our stay.

We could always go somewhere else that doesn’t charge horrendous rates. Dee

News

http://www.gopusa.com/news/2013/05/06/nra-we-will-never-surrender-our-guns/?subscriber=1

This did not go out from the NRA today, it came from the GOP directly.

It says that they don’t want background checks, and will hang on to their guns forever.

I don’t mind people having guns. I’d like the government to check who has one, even if that data is erased the minute the new gun owner is clean.

First and foremost if you collect firearms, have a gun safe or cabinet where you lock up your weapons. If you live on a farm or ranch, you are expected to have rifles. Same as if you hunt. Just keep them locked up.

Keep them from young kids, even though you’re teaching him to use that .22. When it comes right down to it, gunfire and accidents account for a lot of deaths and injuries so you are actually burdening the healthcare system while rallying against it.

I am against automatic weapons and magazines because those weapons are used to kill people, not a deer. I’d actually like to learn how to fly-fish one day.

Nothing can be done until the black market in guns is erased. But that means gangs and drug cartels and we haven’t had much success there.

How about the Republican Party hire the NRA to go vigilante and deal with the bad guys? No? Oh, yeah, there is a Constitution. So everyone has to have guns.

If this is the Republican Party’s attempt to take over Congress and the Presidency, keep it up. You’ll assure that Biden is the next President. He’s brilliant and would be great but you can’t see beyond the guns. Dee

A Phone Number

I just called a phone number I used to call every week to have my Dad pick us up from piano lessons. He forgot us once, so I was allowed to call when my sister started her session so that he would get off of work and be there on time.

This number is in my heart forever but not today as I ran up the chain of command and know that 40 years ago my father was head of that department and today everyone was asleep at the wheel then put me on perpetual hold.

So I called the President’s office and was told I’d get a callback. I said I have a great story, but I’m really looking for my 3rd grade teacher’s email address and here is the year she graduated and you just gave her an award.

I wrote because I just named my guitar after a song she had us sing in 3rd grade music classes.

Close your eyes. Think of the earliest phone number you remember. It’ll be your mom, your dad or a grandparent, or a best friend. If they’re still around, call them and say you’re thinking of them.

It was my Dad’s work phone.  He’s still with me today, but all over the world. He is a connection to my past, present and hopefully will be in it for the near future.

The president’s office called me back (apparently the PR office is still hung over from last night) to say they can’t give me any information. Another organization she participates in won’t give me any information or an email address.

So I emailed one of her kids who might give me the correct email address. This is a woman who taught me to love music. Her husband used to sing at our concerts, and played Puccini’s Pinkerton in Madama Butterfly (my sister was the baby who was supposed to pretend to sleep, she actually did). He sang to rival Frank Sinatra when our chorus sang “Would You Like to Swing on a Star” a year later. I doubt he remembers that performance but I do.

So if you ever doubt where you are, you could be swinging on a star, or just be a happy wanderer as I and my guitar are. Make some music! Dee

Instruments

I had a revelation today. As the lightning, thunder, wind, rain, snow and sleet came down around me I realize I have a voice.

When I was young, it was channeled into violin, piano and ballet. Then my parents got me a cheap guitar and I started up a mainly tone-deaf band at age 12.

I gave it all up. Singing a solo and being second then first chair violin was stressful. I was very shy and one parent told me I could do anything or be anything, and the other said I was worthless. That guitar was stolen.

A few years ago after I filed our taxes (which I’ve yet to do this year) I went in and bought a starter guitar and signed up for lessons. I took private lessons from  a gospel singer, then a drummer. I bought a fancy guitar and the only thing I do for it now is keep it hydrated.

I wondered why I couldn’t keep up the music, then just figured it out in this storm. I’ve found a voice. Some folks around me don’t like it, but for the past 15 years I have a voice. I called both my US Senators today. My voice and my pen (keyboard now) are my instruments for now.

Yes, every once in a while I lay back, close my eyes, tune my guitar and play Bye Bye Miss American Pie, or Teach Your Children, or even 500 Miles. Perhaps I’ll do that now.

My voice needs to be my voice and words until they are no longer needed, then I can play another instrument. I am a multi-tasker but with everything else… Think about it, Dee

Blackbird, Bye Bye

Pack up all your cares and woes,

Here I go, singing low, bye bye blackbird

…… blackbird, bye bye.

Last post, they’re selling my posts. I never wanted or got a nickel from them, I will be removing them from WordPress.

I don’t know how to do this as I’m a writer and not a techie, that’s probably why they allow people to steal my words and sell them.

To my readers, I salute you and will be back on other than WordPress. Thank you for being with me and inspiring me these few years. The grandmother who died before I was a year old sang that song to me, to get me to go to sleep. It’s that time. Dee

 

Dear Dad,

Everything has a meaning. You and Mom gave us each an ornament a year. I finally got all those back but have not even tapped through the last twenty years.

You’ll see items from Kids for Kids, Texas and western memorabilia, and cooking things for me. Also a handmade mitten for Zoe, to benefit an ecological cause. Yes, I have a jingle bell wreath (2) inside, one with a recycled glass star.

Is it a Texas star? I don’t know. I love you, Dad. Merry Christmas. Dee

2012 Wreath

2012 Wreath

Voting in a Swing State

I am used to going to a local condo meeting room and having all the ladies welcome me, “Good morning, Dee” then I’d sign my name and vote.

For a few months we’ve lived in a new state, and I registered to vote over two months ago and got my registration card in the mail from the City with directions to call the Government Accountability Board if there’s any trouble.

There’s trouble a-plenty. I went with my shopping cart because I was going to stop at the grocery afterwards and walk home as  I knew I needed flour and other heavy things.

So they made me leave my empty bag up front and I took my wallet with Drivers License, Passport, utility bill and they gave me a green card with a number on it. One person told me to go to the line on my right. I’m a new voter and have lived here for over thirty days AND am on the voting rolls.

I showed them my registration card issued by the City. They made me go to the line on the left, which went way out into the parking lot. I went back to my bag to get my hat, scarf and gloves as I knew I’d be outside for a while.

All they did was keep coming out to ask if anyone’s last name began with the letters N-Z. Mine doesn’t so I stayed there for about 10 minutes until the first lady came back and got me and put me in the other line, which looked more promising as it was indoors and shorter. It turned out to be the registration line and took at least ten minutes per person.

Still in the longer line of long-term residents and voters, they kept calling N-Z? No-one? OK, we’ll let people just walking in the door go in immediately because their last name is from N-Z, making everyone angry because we’d already been there 45 minutes.

We keep waiting. I show a fourth person my voter registration card and he says to stay where I am. Finally I’m allowed to stand behind someone who is registering. It’s over an hour now. I finally get to sit at the table and place my voter registration card in front of the volunteer. She hands me an application and I ask her to look at the card and tell her I’m on the rolls (I checked online).

She went over to the “Registered” table and I was afraid she’d send me back in the hall where they were still only calling “N to Z” but she didn’t. She made me 2nd in line in the A-M and all I had to do was verify my address and sign my name and get a ballot.

The ballots were unclear as to how to vote and I messed up but asked the monitor before submitting it and corrected my mistakes.

When I emerged from the room, the gentleman who had told me to stay in line apologized for the wait. I told him it was OK, it would have taken just as long because my last name isn’t N-Z.

Dear Voting Regulators:

Before I contact you I had to let my readers know what I and many others are going through this morning. It appears as if you do not want people to go to the polls and you want them to be discouraged and go home frustrated.

That is not the point of elections.We vote with a pencil that is not designed on a string to have enough room for a left-handed person to vote easily. The instructions, for a first-timer, are obtuse. They don’t say draw a line from here to there. I placed X’s and my vote would have been invalidated if I hadn’t asked if I did it correctly.

Doesn’t the government know the percentage of eligible voters whose last names start with any initial? You should be able, by now, to calculate and eliminate early voters.

The voting books don’t need to be evenly split between the alphabet. The books have to be evenly split depending upon the voting population!

In our local library, there were four poll workers in the “green card” section. I had a green card but no-one asked me for it or told me what it meant. It says “32.” One “green card” voter sat across from each poll worker until business was concluded. The poll workers had to call out the name and address of the applicant in a loud voice for the supervisors to hear. The lady told me she’s on an 8-hour shift and I may have to drop by some throat lozenges for them later on today. Sincerely, Dee

It’s creepy. My dad just called and I told him we were all going into a secret room, one by one, and it felt like a Holocaust precursor.

That’s when I realized what an insular world this is and that people are born here, live and die here and rarely go more than a couple hundred miles away during their lives. They distrust “foreigners” even from other states.

Am I a plant by one party to vote in a swing state? No way, I’ve been here for several months now and judging from our reception, don’t want to stay much longer unless things change for the better. We do have some very nice neighbors from around the country and world so feel more comfortable now.

Voting is a right first, and a privilege because we get to live in the USA. My first time here at the voting booths, I’d say we were all treated like cattle off to the slaughter. The parameters are all wrong, people don’t know what they’re doing and voters will give up and leave because they have work to do and kids at school and waiting a couple of hours to do their patriotic duty is shamed by their treatment by this obtuse voting system.

Please prioritize your alphabet and teach poll workers not to place someone with a valid voter registration card with unregistered voters.

Thank you. a disconcerted voter, Dee

A Southern Gentlewoman

must know how to shoot. So my school gave me a BB gun and had me point it at a box filled with paper, with a small target up front.

I was the slowest person on the track team at the time, also a willing but not so able gymnast. I ended up as gymnastics captain junior and senior year at another school north of the Mason-Dixon line but was always a better leader than gymnast.

My teacher knew I was the girls’ JV basketball team’s  short “mascot” and helped them win every “killer” volleyball game by getting the balls back to them while they had my six.

With guns, I was pathetic. Because I was good or trying to be good in other athletic areas, the coach asked me to take out a plain gold earring and put a mark somewhere outside the target area so she could give me a D, not an F, for at least trying in Shootery. I shook as I held that gun and never even hit the box, much less the target. To this day I thank her for her kindness and hope I made it up in other after-school sports.

But a Southern Gentlewoman must know how to use a gun. We don’t have one in the house, even though my husband grew up on a farm/ranch and knows how to use one. I, on the other hand, would probably shoot my foot first then ruin my nice appliances if there was an intruder.

High school memories. Just thought of it as the laundry winds down. Aside from raising my husband, my father-in-law did two great things for me. Bought me roses at our first meeting (but that was Margie), told my Jim the next day it was ok to go ahead and make it official, and drove up and yelled to pick me up. He took me to see a 14-point stag. We missed him but did see a doe. He didn’t have a gun as he only shoots what he has to, in order to protect his cattle. He has such a sense of cattle and wildlife that he wanted me to see a little slice of his world. Even though we disagree on politics, I’ll always love him. Hear that O’Reilly?

Hey J, I think someone is going to be trounced in tonight’s debate. I know you don’t take wagers J, even a quarter, just asking. Cheers! Dee

Ladybugs

It’s rumored in Italy that they’re good luck, or maybe that was just Frances Mayes, author of Under the Tuscan Sun.

Ten years ago we had one tomato plant out on our back deck. It was being eaten by bugs and we didn’t want to use pesticides. At the local hardware store we found 1,500 ladybugs for a few dollars.

We let about half of them go out back. They cleaned up our tomato plant nicely and flew away after a couple of minutes.  What are we going to do with the remainder?

Well, I was charged with taking care of the many plants of our next door neighbor (no, not SK the suspected Serial Killer, the other one who was friendly and nice) and he was not at home so my husband climbed over onto his balcony and released the remainder of the ladybugs.

We haven’t seen that neighbor in ten years and never told him about the ladybugs! He’s coming for dinner tomorrow night and it will be good to catch up with each others’ lives.

Many neighbors were probably helped that day and they had no idea where the ladybugs came from. Now, if they read this, they’ll know.

I was the self-appointed dog and cat rescuer in our neighborhood. Find an owned dog or cat, see if it has a collar, if none take it to the local shelter and have it scanned for one of three kinds of microchip and call the owner.

Another neighbor took care of birds, snakes and once, an iguana. We had each other on speed dial. He’d call about the cat, I’d call about the pet bird. It worked great.

The ladybugs were a one-time thing so far. If we do a lot of planting in the future (winter is coming) I’ll remember our lovely bugs. Cheers! Dee

Cooking Firsts

Yes, it was an EZ Bake Oven that cooked with a 120 watt light bulb. I made their pretzel mix and had goo all over my hands and had no clue I could fool their stupid mix and just add more flour! Now I make dough every week and compensate for humidity. I even have a magnetic hygrometer mounted on the frig (check online for cigar supplies, they’re about $12, it’s a Caliber III) and add water until it’s right. I got it to keep me from electrocuting myself when we lived in the Rockies and it was usually under 20% humidity.

Back in the day, we didn’t cook by our mother’s side. We had our own kiddie kitchen (in the basement) and EZ Bake Oven. I did make a chocolate cake in it that turned out well but probably only used it a few times.

I prefer today’s method where the parent actually teaches a child to cook at the child’s pace so that when he/she goes to college or sets off for a first job, they know how to feed themselves, frugally and without fast food.

That was what I was trying to volunteer for last week when I was dismissed for knowing the boss’ email and about their need for volunteers and was demanded to explain myself and why my cell phone area code is from out of state. I’m a cook, trying to install community gardens in schools in poor neighborhoods so these kids can have their own culinary firsts; first fruit or vegetable; growing things; and eating fresh and healthy foods. Mine is a nefarious quest, to be sure. The boss probably runs the local fast food joint!

A couple of years ago I was tasked to make a packaged blueberry muffin mix at my in-laws for Thanksgiving weekend. My young nephew volunteered to help. I taught him how to fold, telling him it was a batter and not a battering ram and to fold as not to crush the fresh blueberries. They weren’t fresh, it was a mix, but he got the point instantly. Here this summer, he made pizza dough. I love seeing his  cooking “firsts.”

For years my sister and I tried to surprise Mom with sweet rolls and breakfast in bed. She always knew what we were doing and came out to eat our creations, usually refrigerated orange-glazed and cinnamon rolls. We were allowed to turn on the oven but not to use a knife, luckily because back then it would have been an awful knife that was dull and could really have hurt us.

Let me tell you about my second first date. My first date I was sixteen and this boy, 18, was cute and very popular. He went out with me twice then took spring break and slept with a cheerleader he saw for the next two years. Let’s just say she probably knew what my parents were worried about when they made me be home by ten.

After I spent a year in college, the first week home he called and asked me out again. We went to a fish place and as I loved salmon I ordered a salmon steak. Skin and bones and I had no way to negotiate it delicately. So I decided to learn. Oh, we almost married several years later but I called it off. Luckily as now I have Prince Charming, nearly ten years since our wedding day….

But I digress. To make a salmon steak easy to eat, as the French would do, put a raw salmon steak squarely in front of you with the spine at the top. Using a sharp fish knife or boning knife, cut down around the bones all the way to the bottom on both insides.

Remove the frame and discard. Lay the piece of salmon skin side down on your board and using your boning knife parallel to the board take off the skin. Make sure there are no pin bones remaining. If so, take your needle nose pliers, yes the ones in your secret kitchen drawer not those in the garage, and take them out. Rinse the fish to make sure there are no bones or scales.

Dry it, place each piece so that they fit together in a circle (oval) and wrap the skinny pieces around. Secure with 2 toothpicks. Season, grill or bake. Of course, remove the toothpicks before serving.

I like to season first with olive oil, salt and pepper, and one of my favorite preparations is just slathering one side with whole grain mustard and baking it or cooking it on a closed grill just ’til done, about eight minutes for medium rare.

This is what I would do if the fillets in the fish case look old and the salmon steaks are fresh. And while there will never be a third first date with Anonymous, if the Prince and I go to dinner and I’m faced with a salmon steak, I know exactly where the bones are and how to eat it… delicately. Ask your butcher about knife sharpening. Get good knives – they’ll last a lifetime. As Jacques Pepin would say, Happy Cooking! Dee