Daily Archives: January 4, 2012

Buttons

Yesterday my husband and 56 other stalwart souls went to the chopping block, courtesy of a person who has never known hunger or lack of a roof over his head.

He waited until Tuesday to fire 57 employees using a scattershot approach, using Monday to go to his stock broker and sell off over $3 million dollars worth of personal stock at $22 per share, before it tanked to $7.71 yesterday and $7.51 today.

Excuse me, SEC, are you reading this? We’ll land on our feet, but in this economy it may take a while. One may fare better in a large bureaucracy than in a cult of personality, at least that’s what I tell my better half.

But the story is about buttons. My husband has many Stetson shirts and I send them to be laundered, because while my cooking is great, my ironing is not. They have these signature buttons that have fallen off and been replaced but now he has one shirt that makes him look unemployable with the various buttons that have been put on by the laundry.

I’ve written to Stetson several times and offered to pay for replacement buttons, because these shirts are work wear out west. So I got a package from an unknown person at an unknown address (yes, I’ve a thank-you note written and ready to go in the mail tomorrow) full of buttons! That has to be a good omen for 2012.

My husband and I don’t exchange holiday gifts but the dog did go to Bed, Bath and Beyond and buy me a $20 heater to warm the room so I could take a bath. But my best and most heartfelt holiday gift was the Stetson buttons. Thank you!

Yesterday was a tough day, with the layoffs, but we’ve gotten so many calls and referrals in less than 24 hours that I already see a light through the tunnel.

Buttons. Every call, email and letter is a button to make tomorrow a better day. I’ll never look at buttons in the same way. They’re individual gifts for which we’re grateful. Cheers, Dee

Change

When I was young, I always wanted to find a mentor other than my parents, both very intelligent people. We moved as my father’s career progressed so I’d get to know a teacher for a year or two and we were gone.

Mostly I remember my music teachers, violin and general music when it was still taught in the classroom. Also one math teacher who taught me prime numbers in about 30 seconds. And we moved.

No-one moved me at one school as I felt they were two grades behind and they needed to catch up so I turned to sports. I was the slowest leg on the relay on our track team. Also I was on the gymnastic team with less than stellar results and no mentor.

Change again, moving back nearer our roots, and within a week of trying out for the gymnastics team in 11th grade I was captain and took my responsibilities seriously. My younger sister was on the team and she gave me grief every day.

For over 20 years I’ve mentored clients and volunteers. My husband does the same. I always thought we were so different, coming from sociology and physics, but we help people and projects succeed.

You just gave me an idea. Change was forced on us today by an emperor with no clothes. One who led people to a principle he tried to trash today. The principle will live, the people you fired today will survive despite your despicable separation policies.

And change will happen for all of us, 57 families this time, over thirty more a few months ago. Do you know what we’re doing tomorrow night? Helping a fellow firee move in with his girlfriend. Let’s hope they marry soon, some stability is needed in these tough corporate times and we take care of each other.  In friendship and hope, Dee